So I have to confess that our wedding was one of the most
intense experiences in my life, although not in the ways that I would have
expected. There were many times during the day that I thought to myself “thank
god I have experience running events through Toastmasters” as I was able to use
my skills throughout.
As an aside, one of the great lessons that I took away from
it all is an oldie but a gooder. You can judge the success of yourself as an
individual by the work that people do on your behalf, particularly when
unattended and when they need to use their own judgment. There were many
details arranged quietly by my Mom and Ernie that I wasn’t consciously privy to
but found out and agreed with afterwards. Similarly my groomsmen were exceptional.
After the ceremony, I was immediately swamped with guests who wanted to pass on
their well wishes personally. No worries. My groomsmen all disappeared and to
be honest I didn’t really have an idea where they all ended up but I knew that
they were doing good work. By the time I had made it through all the people (a
couple hours, roughly) I found out that my groomsmen had assembled around the
food tables and made sure that people were all fed. At one point there was
literally three guys and three barbeques with burgers/hot dogs flying off the
grills.
There were many similarly positive experiences before and
after the wedding – Kev and I had to get a bouquet of flowers unexpectedly the
morning of the wedding, Jon ripped it apart and rebuilt a proper bundle, Mike
ended up shadowing the photographer and got a number of amazing shots.
One of my less favorite ex’s once said that you can judge
yourself by the quality of the people around you, and frankly if true then I
feel like I’m doing well.
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